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# Individual, Couples & Family Therapy in

# Toronto Mississauga Oakville

## Fees & Scheduling

We help individuals, partners and families rebuild meaningful connections. Our therapy rooms are conveniently located near subway stations and highway intersections in Toronto, Mississauga and Oakville. We also offer online sessions across Ontario.

Weekdays (Tuesday-Friday) and Sunday available for online sessions. In-person sessions in Toronto are on Mondays at 15 Wellesley St. W., and in Missisauga/Oakville on Sundays at 1599 Hurontario St. Mississauga, and 710 Dorval Dr. Oakville.   
Payment Methods: Cheque, e-transfer, Paypal, or credit card (payment must be completed before the next session).  
Fee Adjustment: Any fee adjustment will be discussed with you at least six weeks in advance.  
Insurance Reimbursement: Services are covered under most benefit plans that cover a Registered Psychotherapist (including private health insurance plans).

You may book below directly in my calendar for a free initial consultation or a first session. To book a free initial consultation, you will only need to provide your name and email. To book a first session, you'll need to book through the secure online booking system (Carepatron), but you won't be charged until after the session, and you can cancel or reschedule up to 24 hours before your session, without any charges. 

The charged rate is inclusive of time I spend supporting our work together through related research, analysis, and clinical supervision. 

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## Initial Consultation (Free / 15mins)

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15 mins appointment for new clients to get to know me and my approach. I will introduce myself and understand your main concerns. Together, we'll decide how to proceed.

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## Individual Therapy ($220 / 50mins)

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The core goal of individual therapy is to help you gain a deeper understanding of your own thought and behavior patterns, so that you may:  
\- Enhance self-awareness, build a more stable inner strength and a healthier relationship with yourself.  
\- Improve daily functioning and mental well-being;  
\- Develop the ability to make healthy decisions and set meaningful goals;

If difficult experiences continue to affect your emotions or relationships, you can also learn about our [Individual Trauma Therapy](https://leaflighttherapy.ca/toronto-trauma-therapy-mississauga-leaf-light-therapy?hsLang=en) or [EMDR trauma therapy and intensives](https://leaflighttherapy.ca/toronto-emdr-therapy-intensives-leaf-light-therapy-missisauga-oakville?hsLang=en).

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## Couples Therapy/Family Therapy ($240/50mins)

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Beneath those hurtful words, there's often a hidden longing: "Can you hold me?" or "Do I still matter to you?".  Couples/Family therapy is designed to help clients:  
\- Improve communication patterns, hear each other's unspoken emotions, and identify core issues in the relationship;  
\- Enhance understanding and empathy, learn to see things from each other's perspective, and rebuild trust;  
\- Strengthen emotional connection, or collaboratively reach to an amicable separation if needed.  
The therapist will work to understand your relationship dynamics in depth, help identify the root causes of conflict, and support everyone of you in exploring constructive ways forward.

For a closer look at how we work with recurring conflict and disconnection, explore our [couples and marriage therapy](https://leaflighttherapy.ca/toronto-couples-marriage-therapy-leaf-light-therapy?hsLang=en) approach.

## Further reading

For more on individual therapy, relationships, and trauma treatment, explore the articles on our [psychotherapy blog](https://leaflighttherapy.ca/en/blog?hsLang=en).

## Frequently Asked Questions About Individual, Couples and Family Therapy

### Who might benefit from therapy?

Relational and trauma-informed psychotherapy may help if you repeatedly experience distance, people-pleasing, or conflict in relationships; understand that a pattern is unhealthy but struggle to change it; often feel guilty or overly responsible; experience strong emotions you cannot easily explain; notice childhood experiences affecting current relationships; or function well outwardly while feeling exhausted or empty inside.

We are particularly attentive to difficulties expressing emotions in Chinese cultural contexts, intergenerational pressures in immigrant families, and less visible trauma or dissociation in high-functioning people.

### Do you accept insurance?

If your benefits cover services provided by a Registered Psychotherapist, you may be eligible for reimbursement. Check the details with your benefits provider. You generally pay for your session first, then submit the receipt we provide to your insurer.

### Do you offer reduced-fee sessions?

We currently have a limited number of reduced-fee spots for long-term clients experiencing financial hardship, at $160–$180 per session. These rates generally last no longer than six months, or are reviewed every six months. Sliding-scale fees of $180–$220 may be available for couples and family therapy.

### What happens during the free 15-minute consultation?

It is common to worry about what to say when we first meet. Helping the conversation get started is the therapist's responsibility. This free consultation is a chance for us to get to know each other: you can share what brings you to therapy, a little about your background, and what you hope to work on. The therapist will explain their approach and answer your questions. You can decide whether the fit feels right for you.

### What happens in the first therapy session?

The first one to four sessions usually focus on learning about your history and life. The therapist may ask about family, relationships, and experiences, but will do so carefully and with attention to trauma. You only need to share what feels comfortable. If you seem hesitant, the therapist can slow down or stop asking. You are not expected to discuss anything you do not feel safe sharing. Safety and trust take time to build.

### Which couples therapy approach is more effective, EFT or Gottman?

Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and the Gottman Method are both evidence-informed approaches that help couples recognize difficult patterns and strengthen connection. EFT places more emphasis on attachment and the underlying emotions in a relationship. Gottman-informed work places more emphasis on practical ways to build fondness, communicate, and manage conflict. The better fit depends on your relationship and goals.

### Does everyone need to attend the initial couples or family consultation?

Because the relationship is the focus, I generally encourage both partners or relevant family members to join the initial consultation. This helps everyone assess whether they feel comfortable working with me and begins to build trust and mutual respect. Often, one person is more eager to start than the others; we can discuss how best to proceed in that situation.

### What does couples or family therapy involve?

After the 15-minute online consultation, we usually schedule an initial meeting with the couple or family together, followed by two 50-minute individual meetings to better understand each person's experience. These can take place on the same day or over several weeks.

Early work often involves regular weekly sessions. We explore your relationship patterns and their roots, including which difficulties can be addressed and which may need to be managed together. Later sessions focus on the concerns you bring, whether recent or longstanding. You are welcome to raise questions about therapy at any point.

### Is couples or family therapy right for us?

Therapy can support many couples and families, whether you want to strengthen your relationship or separate thoughtfully. Trust and safety matter in either case. Ongoing physical violence or undisclosed infidelity can make joint sessions unsafe; individual support may be a better first step. If you are unsure whether joint therapy is appropriate, we can discuss your options in an initial consultation.

### What is the no-secrets policy in couples or family therapy?

In couples or family therapy, I follow a no-secrets policy. Information you share in an individual session that is relevant to the relationship may need to be discussed in a later joint session. If something cannot be discussed openly, we may need to pause our work together. The aim is to create a respectful, honest setting in which everyone understands how information is handled.

### How does online couples or family therapy work?

You can join from home or another private space. It is preferable for partners to sit together, but separate rooms are also possible. Please use Chrome, a reliable internet connection, and a quiet place where you can speak privately. If technical problems arise, we can switch to a phone session or reschedule.

### Does seeking couples or family therapy mean our relationship is failing?

No. Many couples and families seek therapy because they want to stay together or improve their relationships. Asking for help is a way to address difficulties, not a judgment about your family. Therapy is not a verdict on whether to stay together. It offers time to understand what is happening and decide what needs to change. In some circumstances, such as serious domestic violence, separation and safety planning may need to take priority.

### Will the couples therapist take one person's side?

A couples therapist should not act as a judge or referee. Their role is to listen to both partners and help you understand the patterns each of you contributes to. If either of you feels unheard or thinks the therapist is taking sides, say so during the session. That concern is important to discuss openly.

### Will couples or family therapy make us confront or argue with each other?

Conflict may come up in sessions, but a therapist should not encourage endless arguments or personal attacks. They can help you use structured conversations, speak from your own experience rather than blame, pause when emotions rise, and return to the discussion more clearly. The goal is to understand each other's feelings and needs, not to turn the session into another fight.

### Is the problem with our child, or with the family relationship?

Many families first seek help because a child is withdrawn, upset, having difficulties at school, or frequently in conflict with a parent. When one family member struggles, others may also be affected, and family interactions can shape how difficulties continue. Family therapy is not about identifying who is at fault; it helps family members understand one another and improve communication. \[1\]\[2\]

Sometimes changing communication within the family helps the child. At other times, individual support for the child alongside parenting or family support may be a better fit. The format depends on your circumstances and goals.

### What if our child does not want to attend family therapy?

A child or teenager may worry that therapy means they are the problem or that their parents will criticize them. Family therapy looks at interactions among family members, not who is right or wrong. \[1\]\[3\]

If your child is not ready to attend, we can begin by meeting with the parents to understand current patterns and consider what they can change. A child may become more willing to participate once they see that therapy is not about blame.

### What if I am the only person in my family who wants therapy?

You do not need everyone to agree before seeking help. We can start with your concerns, explore what is happening in your relationships, and consider what is within your influence. Family therapy does not always require every family member to attend in the same way: depending on the circumstances, a therapist may meet with members separately or together. \[1\] Others may become more open to joining as the work progresses.

### Will we have to discuss every family problem in front of everyone?

No. Family therapy is not about airing every grievance at once or forcing confrontation. The therapist can help family members build a safer way to communicate, deciding which subjects are suitable for joint discussion and which need individual attention first. The focus is on understanding feelings, needs, values, and interaction patterns rather than assigning blame. \[1\]\[3\] If a topic could intensify conflict, tell the therapist so you can plan how to approach it.

### Can family therapy help if we argue about parenting?

Yes. Parents may disagree about limits, freedom, consequences, a child's stress, or how parenting responsibilities are shared. These differences can spill into family interactions, especially when partners undermine each other in front of a child. Family therapy can help you understand each other's perspectives and needs and consider how these disagreements affect the family, rather than declaring one parenting style right. \[1\]\[3\]

### We never argue in front of our child. Could they still need support?

Possibly. Children may notice silence, distance, shifts in mood, or tension at home even when they do not witness an argument. This does not mean every disagreement between parents harms a child. \[1\] Family therapy can help you understand your current patterns and consider how to help your child feel supported and secure while you work through differences.

### Why is our child withdrawing when we are trying so hard?

Parents may feel they have done everything they can, while a child feels misunderstood. \[4\] This does not necessarily mean anyone has done something wrong. Sometimes the way care is expressed is different from how it is received. Family therapy can give everyone room to slow down, express feelings and expectations differently, and move from correcting or explaining toward a conversation that makes connection more possible.

### Will the therapist blame the parents and side with the child?

Family therapy is not about finding someone to blame. A therapist helps everyone understand the family's interaction patterns rather than acting as a judge. Some behaviours may need to change, but discussing them is not the same as taking sides. The goal is to understand what keeps difficulties going and what each person can do differently, while giving parents and children space to communicate. \[1\]\[4\]

### Does the whole family need to attend every session?

Not necessarily. Sessions can be adapted to the family's needs and goals. Sometimes everyone attends together; at other times, parents, partners, or individual family members meet separately. A therapist can discuss which arrangement would be most useful for your circumstances. \[1\]

### Do we need family therapy if nothing serious has happened, but communication is harder?

You do not need a crisis to seek support. Family therapy can help family members understand one another, offer support, and manage difficult situations or repeated patterns. \[1\] You might consider it if conversations have become rare, disagreements escalate easily, family members avoid one another, parenting decisions cause repeated conflict, or a child no longer wants to share what is happening. These concerns are enough to start a conversation about whether therapy would help.

### How many family therapy sessions will we need, and how can we tell whether it is helping?

There is no fixed number of sessions that suits every family. The length of therapy depends on your goals, how long difficulties have been present, and how family members practise different ways of relating between sessions. Support around a specific life change may take a different amount of time from work involving longstanding relationship injuries or trauma.

You and your therapist can agree on observable goals, such as reconnecting more easily after an argument, expressing different opinions, or negotiating family responsibilities more clearly, and review progress together. If you are not noticing changes, discuss whether the goals, pace, or approach need adjusting. How comfortable a single session feels is not enough to judge the whole process. [Further reading: HelpGuide's family therapy guide](https://www.helpguide.org/mental-health/treatment/family-therapy).

If longstanding relationship injuries continue to affect your emotions and family interactions, learn more about our [individual therapy and trauma treatment](https://leaflighttherapy.ca/toronto-trauma-therapy-mississauga-leaf-light-therapy?hsLang=en). If you are unsure where to start, you can [book a free 15-minute consultation](https://leaflighttherapy.ca/contact?hsLang=en) to discuss your concerns and goals.

### Can adult children and their parents attend family therapy together?

Yes. Family therapy is not limited to parents and younger children. Adult children and their parents can also work on their relationship together. You may find yourselves repeatedly disagreeing about life choices, financial support, caregiving responsibilities, or how often to stay in touch, or want to address disappointment and distance that have built up over time.

Therapy can help you understand each other's expectations and renegotiate responsibilities and boundaries in adulthood. Participants agree on the goals together, which may include clearer communication or a more sustainable way of relating. You do not have to share the same values, and reconciliation should not be forced. Before starting, consider what each of you hopes will change. [Further reading: family therapy questions about adult children and parents](https://traversefamilytherapy.com/faq).

If childhood or family-of-origin experiences still affect your boundaries and relationships, read about our [work with childhood and attachment trauma](https://leaflighttherapy.ca/toronto-trauma-therapy-mississauga-leaf-light-therapy?hsLang=en) to understand how individual support may help.

### Can family therapy help during divorce, remarriage, or blended family transitions?

It may be worth considering. Separation, divorce, remarriage, and blended family transitions can bring changes to caregiving arrangements, family roles, and feelings of belonging. In therapy, you can discuss co-parenting, expectations across households, and children's concerns about these changes, and work toward clearer communication and shared responsibilities.

The goal is not necessarily for partners to reunite. Therapy can support you through relationship changes and help reduce children's involvement in adult conflict. Whether joint sessions are appropriate depends on voluntary participation and safety. If there is violence, threats, or controlling behaviour, safety and more suitable support should be discussed first. Family therapy does not replace legal advice or a custody assessment. [Further reading: HelpGuide on divorce and blended families](https://www.helpguide.org/mental-health/treatment/family-therapy).

If you are considering separation or divorce, or want support with co-parenting and blended family transitions, explore our [couples therapy and marriage counselling](https://leaflighttherapy.ca/toronto-couples-marriage-therapy-leaf-light-therapy?hsLang=en) approach to learn about related areas of work.

## References

## **\[1\]** *Family Therapy.* Centre for Addiction and Mental Health (CAMH).

[https://www.camh.ca/en/health-info/mental-illness-and-addiction-index/family-therapy](https://www.camh.ca/en/health-info/mental-illness-and-addiction-index/family-therapy)

**\[2\]** Niec, L. N. (2022). *Strengthening the Parent–Child Relationship in Therapy: Laying the Foundation for Healthy Development.* American Psychological Association.  
[https://www.apa.org/pubs/books/strengthening-parent-child-relationship-therapy](https://www.apa.org/pubs/books/strengthening-parent-child-relationship-therapy)

**\[3\]** American Psychological Association. (2025). *Impact of Online Child–Parent Relationship Therapy.*  
[https://www.apa.org/pubs/highlights/spotlight/child-parent-relationship-therapy.html](https://www.apa.org/pubs/highlights/spotlight/child-parent-relationship-therapy.html)

**\[4\]** American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy. *Divorce, Remarriage, and Blended Families: Checklists for Therapists.*  
[https://ftm.aamft.org/divorce-remarriage-and-blended-families-checklists-for-therapists/](https://ftm.aamft.org/divorce-remarriage-and-blended-families-checklists-for-therapists/)

**\[5\]** American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy. (2013). *Family Therapy Magazine: May/June 2013.* \[PDF\]  
[https://aamft.org/common/Uploaded%20files/FTM/MJ13.FTM.pdf](https://aamft.org/common/Uploaded%20files/FTM/MJ13.FTM.pdf)

**\[6\]** Systematic review of the association between parent–child communication and adolescent mental health. *BMC Psychology.*  
[https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC11143954/](https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC11143954/)

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      "text" : "No. Many couples and families seek therapy because they want to stay together or improve their relationships. Asking for help is a way to address difficulties, not a judgment about your family. Therapy is not a verdict on whether to stay together. It offers time to understand what is happening and decide what needs to change. In some circumstances, such as serious domestic violence, separation and safety planning may need to take priority."
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    "name" : "Does seeking couples or family therapy mean our relationship is failing?"
  }, {
    "@type" : "Question",
    "acceptedAnswer" : {
      "@type" : "Answer",
      "text" : "A couples therapist should not act as a judge or referee. Their role is to listen to both partners and help you understand the patterns each of you contributes to. If either of you feels unheard or thinks the therapist is taking sides, say so during the session. That concern is important to discuss openly."
    },
    "name" : "Will the couples therapist take one person's side?"
  }, {
    "@type" : "Question",
    "acceptedAnswer" : {
      "@type" : "Answer",
      "text" : "Conflict may come up in sessions, but a therapist should not encourage endless arguments or personal attacks. They can help you use structured conversations, speak from your own experience rather than blame, pause when emotions rise, and return to the discussion more clearly. The goal is to understand each other's feelings and needs, not to turn the session into another fight."
    },
    "name" : "Will couples or family therapy make us confront or argue with each other?"
  }, {
    "@type" : "Question",
    "acceptedAnswer" : {
      "@type" : "Answer",
      "text" : "Many families first seek help because a child is withdrawn, upset, having difficulties at school, or frequently in conflict with a parent. When one family member struggles, others may also be affected, and family interactions can shape how difficulties continue. Family therapy is not about identifying who is at fault; it helps family members understand one another and improve communication. [1][2] Sometimes changing communication within the family helps the child. At other times, individual support for the child alongside parenting or family support may be a better fit. The format depends on your circumstances and goals."
    },
    "name" : "Is the problem with our child, or with the family relationship?"
  }, {
    "@type" : "Question",
    "acceptedAnswer" : {
      "@type" : "Answer",
      "text" : "A child or teenager may worry that therapy means they are the problem or that their parents will criticize them. Family therapy looks at interactions among family members, not who is right or wrong. [1][3] If your child is not ready to attend, we can begin by meeting with the parents to understand current patterns and consider what they can change. A child may become more willing to participate once they see that therapy is not about blame."
    },
    "name" : "What if our child does not want to attend family therapy?"
  }, {
    "@type" : "Question",
    "acceptedAnswer" : {
      "@type" : "Answer",
      "text" : "You do not need everyone to agree before seeking help. We can start with your concerns, explore what is happening in your relationships, and consider what is within your influence. Family therapy does not always require every family member to attend in the same way: depending on the circumstances, a therapist may meet with members separately or together. [1] Others may become more open to joining as the work progresses."
    },
    "name" : "What if I am the only person in my family who wants therapy?"
  }, {
    "@type" : "Question",
    "acceptedAnswer" : {
      "@type" : "Answer",
      "text" : "No. Family therapy is not about airing every grievance at once or forcing confrontation. The therapist can help family members build a safer way to communicate, deciding which subjects are suitable for joint discussion and which need individual attention first. The focus is on understanding feelings, needs, values, and interaction patterns rather than assigning blame. [1][3] If a topic could intensify conflict, tell the therapist so you can plan how to approach it."
    },
    "name" : "Will we have to discuss every family problem in front of everyone?"
  }, {
    "@type" : "Question",
    "acceptedAnswer" : {
      "@type" : "Answer",
      "text" : "Yes. Parents may disagree about limits, freedom, consequences, a child's stress, or how parenting responsibilities are shared. These differences can spill into family interactions, especially when partners undermine each other in front of a child. Family therapy can help you understand each other's perspectives and needs and consider how these disagreements affect the family, rather than declaring one parenting style right. [1][3]"
    },
    "name" : "Can family therapy help if we argue about parenting?"
  }, {
    "@type" : "Question",
    "acceptedAnswer" : {
      "@type" : "Answer",
      "text" : "Possibly. Children may notice silence, distance, shifts in mood, or tension at home even when they do not witness an argument. This does not mean every disagreement between parents harms a child. [1] Family therapy can help you understand your current patterns and consider how to help your child feel supported and secure while you work through differences."
    },
    "name" : "We never argue in front of our child. Could they still need support?"
  }, {
    "@type" : "Question",
    "acceptedAnswer" : {
      "@type" : "Answer",
      "text" : "Parents may feel they have done everything they can, while a child feels misunderstood. [4] This does not necessarily mean anyone has done something wrong. Sometimes the way care is expressed is different from how it is received. Family therapy can give everyone room to slow down, express feelings and expectations differently, and move from correcting or explaining toward a conversation that makes connection more possible."
    },
    "name" : "Why is our child withdrawing when we are trying so hard?"
  }, {
    "@type" : "Question",
    "acceptedAnswer" : {
      "@type" : "Answer",
      "text" : "Family therapy is not about finding someone to blame. A therapist helps everyone understand the family's interaction patterns rather than acting as a judge. Some behaviours may need to change, but discussing them is not the same as taking sides. The goal is to understand what keeps difficulties going and what each person can do differently, while giving parents and children space to communicate. [1][4]"
    },
    "name" : "Will the therapist blame the parents and side with the child?"
  }, {
    "@type" : "Question",
    "acceptedAnswer" : {
      "@type" : "Answer",
      "text" : "Not necessarily. Sessions can be adapted to the family's needs and goals. Sometimes everyone attends together; at other times, parents, partners, or individual family members meet separately. A therapist can discuss which arrangement would be most useful for your circumstances. [1]"
    },
    "name" : "Does the whole family need to attend every session?"
  }, {
    "@type" : "Question",
    "acceptedAnswer" : {
      "@type" : "Answer",
      "text" : "You do not need a crisis to seek support. Family therapy can help family members understand one another, offer support, and manage difficult situations or repeated patterns. [1] You might consider it if conversations have become rare, disagreements escalate easily, family members avoid one another, parenting decisions cause repeated conflict, or a child no longer wants to share what is happening. These concerns are enough to start a conversation about whether therapy would help."
    },
    "name" : "Do we need family therapy if nothing serious has happened, but communication is harder?"
  }, {
    "@type" : "Question",
    "acceptedAnswer" : {
      "@type" : "Answer",
      "text" : "There is no fixed number of sessions that suits every family. The length of therapy depends on your goals, how long difficulties have been present, and how family members practise different ways of relating between sessions. Support around a specific life change may take a different amount of time from work involving longstanding relationship injuries or trauma. You and your therapist can agree on observable goals, such as reconnecting more easily after an argument, expressing different opinions, or negotiating family responsibilities more clearly, and review progress together. If you are not noticing changes, discuss whether the goals, pace, or approach need adjusting. How comfortable a single session feels is not enough to judge the whole process. Further reading: HelpGuide's family therapy guide. If longstanding relationship injuries continue to affect your emotions and family interactions, learn more about our individual therapy and trauma treatment. If you are unsure where to start, you can book a free 15-minute consultation to discuss your concerns and goals."
    },
    "name" : "How many family therapy sessions will we need, and how can we tell whether it is helping?"
  }, {
    "@type" : "Question",
    "acceptedAnswer" : {
      "@type" : "Answer",
      "text" : "Yes. Family therapy is not limited to parents and younger children. Adult children and their parents can also work on their relationship together. You may find yourselves repeatedly disagreeing about life choices, financial support, caregiving responsibilities, or how often to stay in touch, or want to address disappointment and distance that have built up over time. Therapy can help you understand each other's expectations and renegotiate responsibilities and boundaries in adulthood. Participants agree on the goals together, which may include clearer communication or a more sustainable way of relating. You do not have to share the same values, and reconciliation should not be forced. Before starting, consider what each of you hopes will change. Further reading: family therapy questions about adult children and parents. If childhood or family-of-origin experiences still affect your boundaries and relationships, read about our work with childhood and attachment trauma to understand how individual support may help."
    },
    "name" : "Can adult children and their parents attend family therapy together?"
  }, {
    "@type" : "Question",
    "acceptedAnswer" : {
      "@type" : "Answer",
      "text" : "It may be worth considering. Separation, divorce, remarriage, and blended family transitions can bring changes to caregiving arrangements, family roles, and feelings of belonging. In therapy, you can discuss co-parenting, expectations across households, and children's concerns about these changes, and work toward clearer communication and shared responsibilities. The goal is not necessarily for partners to reunite. Therapy can support you through relationship changes and help reduce children's involvement in adult conflict. Whether joint sessions are appropriate depends on voluntary participation and safety. If there is violence, threats, or controlling behaviour, safety and more suitable support should be discussed first. Family therapy does not replace legal advice or a custody assessment. Further reading: HelpGuide on divorce and blended families. If you are considering separation or divorce, or want support with co-parenting and blended family transitions, explore our couples therapy and marriage counselling approach to learn about related areas of work."
    },
    "name" : "Can family therapy help during divorce, remarriage, or blended family transitions?"
  } ]
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